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When the silence no longer does the talking we vent the silence respectfully ..’ – Aremuorin

Something has to rage inside of you to scream out loud and, often, it’s not silence! From racism to ageism – we’re done with the silence.

My mother often championed the idea of “self first, others last.” For a long time, I grappled with that mindset, unsure of its merit. However, as I’ve grown wiser and viewed life from various angles, I’ve come to fully appreciate the profound wisdom embedded in her words.

I’ve had a profound shift in perspective, moving from questioning my mother’s “self-first, others-last” philosophy to fully understanding its value. Often, those who prioritize others over themselves get caught in the trap of “people-pleasing,” which can sometimes lead to burnout or being taken advantage of by others. Narcissists don’t care for your gratitude and humility. You are just a supply in their toolbox.

There’s a well-known adage that “Nice people finish last,” and it’s often proven true in a world where narcissists and opportunists seem to effortlessly sweep the floor with everyone else, securing not only what they want but often much more. While the considerate tread cautiously, these self-serving individuals unapologetically capitalize on every opportunity, leaving those who prioritize kindness at a clear disadvantage.

As we mature, we start seeing the world in its complexities, realizing that boundaries and self-care are crucial for personal well-being. It’s not about being selfish but rather about balancing the scales between giving and preserving oneself. My mother’s perspective reflects wisdom that protects against emotional depletion and recognizes that you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Ultimately, the key is finding the middle ground—valuing yourself while also extending kindness to others, without allowing people to wipe the floor with you.

This nuanced understanding reminds us of the importance of boundaries, as echoed by Brene Brown: “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.”

There are moments in life when silence becomes synonymous with endurance, particularly in the face of undervaluation. But there’s a powerful shift when you suddenly remember your worth—a return to self that transforms quiet suffering into confident assertion.

This transformation is not uncommon. After a prolonged period of internalized struggle, one might recall the words of George Eliot, who remarked, “We are contented with our day when we have been able to bear our grief in silence, and act as if we were not suffering.”

However, while the silent endurance of suffering may seem noble at first glance, it is often in the breaking of that silence that true growth is found.

The concept of rediscovering one’s worth after being silent is akin to realizing that your voice carries power, even if you’ve been quiet for too long.

It is the recognition that while silence may offer temporary peace, it is not the cure for disregard or mistreatment. Instead, self-worth flourishes once you assert it, like a long-dormant seed that blooms once given air and light.

This phenomenon resonates with the teachings of Rumi, who said, “The wound is the place where the light enters you.” In silence, you may accumulate wounds, but through them, your awakening occurs—a return to the self that acknowledges value and refuses further mistreatment.

Rediscovering your worth after a period of silence is more than an act of self-empowerment. It’s a reminder to the world that no amount of quiet will diminish inherent value. It is, in many ways, the truest expression of self-respect.

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Àrèmúorin is a distinguished Multi Awardee Conscious Writer and accomplished Holistic Jazz-Soul Singer-Songwriter & Producer, reigning at the No. 1 spot on the Jazz Charts for over 49 weeks. He held the top 10 spot for over 490 weeks.

Aremuorin, a renowned polymath holding dual honorary doctoral degrees and serving as a UN Ambassador, is celebrated for his captivating musical creations and profound literary works.

Originating from Nigeria and currently situated in the United Kingdom, his artistic prowess transcends diverse creative domains, marking him as a truly versatile virtuoso.

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